Marital Life and Family through the Lens of Dharma

The bonds of Dharma, both social and familial, seem to be loosening their hold. Just yesterday, a couple known for their laughter and marital bliss seemed distant, one on each side of their flat's balcony.

Their life together, once a testament to a growing bond, now casts a shadow of doubt. Perhaps yesterday marked a shift in their karma, a consequence of past actions. Whatever the reason, their current state reflects the fragility of our attachments in this impermanent world.

The yearning for a stable marriage life is natural. The Vedas tell us of the sacred union between husband and wife, likened to a chariot with two wheels – the husband (pati) and the wife (patni). Both are essential for a smooth journey through life.

However, the younger generation often struggles to navigate the complexities of marriage. While career success is important, it is true maturity, rooted in Dharma, that fosters a strong and fulfilling union. True maturity comes from understanding one's role within the family and fulfilling it with dedication.

Over the past year, I witnessed the couple strengthen their bond. Yet, their current situation reminds us of the impermanence of things. While societal norms discourage interfering in another's life, the essence of Dharma transcends culture. After all, suffering is universal, just as the path to liberation is.

While some marriages falter, others blossom with love, understanding, and devotion. May the younger generation find the wisdom to navigate these relationships with maturity, honoring the sacred vows of marriage.

Dharma of Husband and Wife (Pati and Patni):

The Bhagavad Gita emphasizes the importance of fulfilling one's duties (Swadharma). For a husband, this includes:

• Remembering his Matru Devo Bhava (Mother is God): Honoring the mother who nurtured him.
• Respecting his wife's family: Just as he wouldn't tolerate criticism of his own family, he should respect his wife's lineage.
• Leading with compassion: Avoiding a false sense of male dominance and collaborating with his wife as an equal partner.

For a wife, her Dharma includes:

• Respecting her husband's family: Similar to the husband, she should treat his family with respect.
• Sweet communication: Expressing her needs with love and understanding.
• Financial responsibility: Working together with her husband to manage finances wisely, avoiding unnecessary extravagance.

The Power of Shared Struggles:

The Ramayana teaches us that true love deepens through shared hardships. When husband and wife face challenges together, their bond strengthens. This shared journey cultivates empathy and fosters a deeper understanding of each other.

Ultimately, a successful marriage is built on Dharma. By fulfilling their respective duties and navigating life's challenges together, husband and wife can cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling union, ultimately achieving Moksha (liberation).